My writings about the joys and pains of being married, of raising five children ages 16 and under, and the joys and pains of trying to live a life according to the Bible, not according to tradition -- and failing at all of it from time to time. I thank God that the Joy always outweighs the pain!
Tuesday, January 29, 2008
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
Friday, January 18, 2008
Three Months from your due date (27 weeks)
Today your big cousin, K, came over for the day. She's back in regular school now and today they were out so she came and stayed with us. The other kids were happy to see her again, during the school day. Your brother and sister and other cousin still had to get their work done for the day, so K helped with some much-needed clothes folding while we did our lessons.
Tonight, your brother and two sisters went and played with some friends while Mommy and Daddy had a date night at home. We ate tasty Macaroni Grill and watched the movie, Fracture, with Anthony Hopkins and Ryan Gosling (the guy from Remember the Titans and The Notebook). It turned out to be a really good movie, although it had me wondering for a while.
It was a great day today. Three more months to go!! See you soon, son.
And Here's how you're growing these days....
Thursday, January 10, 2008
As long as their needs get met?
"How do your children receive the attention they need?"
She gave a very good answer, and this is in no way a criticism of her, but part of her answer was that if she was not able to give them the attention, someone else would. She was speaking of her other children, who are there to help out immensely when mommy is not available. This appeared to be a very hard-working, loving, and dedicated mother so I don't believe she had any ill-intentions or that she pushed her responsibilities of on others.
A few days later, I thought of this interview again, with respect to the time and attention I give my children. It's funny that I will listen to one of my nieces read a story to my baby, I think about when the last time I read a story to her one on one.
Then it made me wonder how many times I have shifted such a responsibility onto someone else - whether it was learning the Bible at Sunday school, learning phonics at preschool, or being lulled to sleep by a CD player - and was satisfied with the fact that they got their need met.
I thought further about how I should be careful with that type of mindset because if I adopted that as a principle I might become lazy in my responsibilities to meet the needs of my family.
Think about it..... Would you be comfortable if, in your marriage, your spouse did not have any complaints because his or her needs were being met, but not necessarily by you? I don't think so. I think most of us would work really hard at making sure the their needs were being met by us!
All of those thoughts that came together for me this morning, should motivate me to take the time out that is necessary, although not always convenient or comfortable, to meet the needs of my husband and my children.
Tuesday, January 08, 2008
Thursday, January 03, 2008
What is My Giving Like? - Thoughts from The "Desperate Housewives Book" - Chapter 10
This morning:
Husband: "Babe, can you iron my shirt for me?"
Three optional responses ran through my mind, in a matter of seconds.
A. "Uhgh, I just finished cooking your breakfast and now I have to get the kids breakfast and the baby changed and not to mention get myself cleaned up and dressed."
B. "Can you do it when you come back in here from changing my flat tire?"
C. "Sure I will."
What did I choose?
After a huge (inner) sigh, I chose to C, but it was not easy at all.
Thank God for this book! Passionate Housewives, Desperate for God by Jennie Chancey and Stacy McDonald.
This week I finished reading the book. It was the fastest I had read a book in years. When I closed the book that night, of course after everyone was asleep, I felt rejuvenated and rededicated in my commitment to serve. But dawn was coming and I would have to face the fight in my flesh which always tempts me to think about myself rather than serving someone else.
I had the time that night to finish the book (the remaining 7 chapters I had left) but just days later I feel like I need to read it all over again. Of course I don't have the time to do that so instead I must grasp some of the nuggets I remember, go back to some of the earmarked pages to refresh me, and most importantly recall the passages from the Word of God that will get me back on track.
I'm a work in progress for sure. And I'm just glad that His Word is available to teach me.... as long as I am teachable!
Here are a few quotes from Chapter 10 of Passionate Housewives, Desperate for God, that stood out for me, in the area of service.
"It's all in our attitude toward the things that need to be done and the people we are serving. If we view our husbands, families, and guests as so many leeches crying, "Give, give!" then we are not going to develop a godly joy as we serve them."
That reminds me of something Voddie Baucham says regarding child discipline. "Our children must learn to do what we say, and do it with a good attitude."
It's easy to expect that of your children, but not so easy to do it yourself, as a child of God.
Here's another quote from the book:
"Sing praises as you sweep up those never-ending crumbs. Whistle hymns while you wipe down the bathroom. Meditate upon Scripture while you are folding that third pile of laundry."
Jennie Chancey, one of the authors, said this of their home, growing up. "Christ was the Lord of that house, and our job was to serve Him without being bitter or acting put-upon."
Lord let me adopt that in my heart, myself!
Here is another other post with commentary on the book.
Wednesday, January 02, 2008
Who Can I Run To? Who DO I Run To? - Thoughts from The "Desperate Housewives Book" - Chapter 4
"Has anyone ever said to you, 'You sure do look tired; you need to get more rest'? Maybe some well-meaning friend has patted your back and told you about your need for more time to yourself without the children, so that you won't have a breakdown or wear yourself out. Perhaps they've insisted that, to be truly spiritual or godly, you must have a "quiet time" early each morning in peaceful solitude with the Lord. To top it off, they've probably warned you that if you don't do all these things (that are practically impossible for a mom with young children), you won't be able to take care of your family properly, your relationship with God will suffer, and you may even wind up on the five o'clock news!"
Rather than getting angry or frustrated by these statements, we need to know how to respond to them. Even more importantly, we need to know how to rely on God to believe our burdens - His ways never fail us! In this chapter we'll discuss several ways we can let go of some of the ways we burden ourselves, as well as learn how to properly manage the challenges and trials God sends us for our good and His glory.
I'm reminded in this chapter of the book, that the times that I spend reading the Bible with my children, worshipping, and praying with them, are just as priceless as a time that I could spend miles away or completely alone. As I begin to appreciate those times I begin to have a much better attitude about what my spiritual role is in their life and I am less anxious about getting away from them, for time alone. It's not that I don't still get away and not that I cannot enjoy time away with friends or time alone, but my perspective about it is different.
Here's another great quote that I enjoyed, regarding the Lord's word to me in my weariness.
"Be assured that neither your efforts nor your tears (Psalm 56:8) have gone unnoticed by our wise, good, and powerful God; and that He has ordained your steps (Psalm 16:7). Go to Him; plead for His strength and mercy (Psalm 86:16). He will give you the rest needed to accomplish His will, as He promises (Matthew 11:28-30)."
That's especially assuring after long days of seemingly endless activity, or just long mornings of the same. I can rest on my pillow at night and replay a verse like this and it's just like my own personal get away:
"Yet the Lord will command his lovingkindness in the daytime, and in the night his song shall be with me, and my prayer unto the God of my life." (Psalm 42:8)
One last quote from the book, which takes me to the attitude of servanthood, later expounded on in chapter 10 of the book.
"If I focus on the things I'm not getting because I'm serving my family....", "I might easily become embittered against the very people God has called me to sacrificially love and serve. If I strive for a "me-centered" life while I am surrounded by a family who needs me, then I will find myself frustrated and desperate indeed - with an emphasis on despair. Some days are draining, but we need to let Jesus be the satisfier of our souls. God will meet needs you didn't even know you had and give you all the rest and refreshing you require. It may come in the form of housecleaning help from a friend, a night alone with your husband, or a meal from someone at church. Or it may be the supernatural rest that only God can give. He will multiply your strength in His own way!"
Here is another post with commentary on the book.
Movie Meme - First Meme of 2008
Would you let me know yours?
Sometimes we're strapped for good movies to rent!
I tagged a couple of bloggy friends and after CraftyCarolinaGirl added comments to the movies in her list, I had to follow suit.
Rented
1. The Holiday:
This was a really cute movie. I wasn't sure my husband would like it but after a few weeks of Bourne and other action stuff he was willing to give it a try. It's a romantic comedy with Cameron Diaz, Kate Winslet, Jude Law, and Jack Black. I love the way it ends, very different than typical Hollywood or even typical society.
2. Pride and Prejudice:
Very fun! Starring Keira Knightley, Talulah Riley, and Rosamund Pike. The dancing scene was our favorite. And we loved the way, on some scenes, the girls talked so fast that you had to replay the scene to understand them.
3. We Are Marshall:
Classic true football story. Loved it. I love sports!
4. Pride :
Very interesting role played by Terrance Howard. He gets a job at an old recreation center, and ends up revamping it by putting together an incredible swim team. Howard's character, an extremely good swimmer, was denied the opportunity to compete as a swimmer in his younger years, because of his race, so he's perfect for coaching these young students. Also starring Bernie Mac and Tom Arnold.
5. Spider Man 3:
One of my kids' favorites this year! It became a little much with the multiple villains but the action was incredible.
6. Bourne Supremecy:
The 2nd in the Bourne trilogy. My husband got me into these and I actually like them. I like almost anything with Matt Damon. I think this one is the best of the three.
7. Bourne Ultimatum:
The supposed end of the triology. Very good. Bourne is crazy good at the get away as usual!
8. Facing the Giants :
Another good football story. The great thing about this one is that it's written and produced by volunteers members of a church in Georgia.
9. Air Buddies:
Very cute. It was watched at our house, about 45 times before we had to ship it back to Netflix. B-Dog got on my nerves with his wanna-be hip-hop talk though.
10: Ratatouille
11. Meet the Robinsons
12. The Wild
13. Pursuit of Happyness
At the Theatre
These are the few we've seen at the theatre. Loved them all, except one of the scenes on Die Hard was a little too much for me.
1. The Great Debaters
2. Why Did I Get Married?
3. Live Free or Die Hard
Movies I Want to See Sooon
1. There Will Be Blood
2. First Sunday
3. The Atonement - looks interesting but may be a little to much; we'll see
4. The Water Horse
5. The Game Plan
6. National Treasure
7. This Christmas
8. The Perfect Holiday
9. Charlie Wilson's War
10. The Bucket List
Tuesday, January 01, 2008
Wednesday, December 26, 2007
Baby Update - 24 Weeks

Tuesday, December 18, 2007
Four Months from Your Due Date - 23 Weeks
Yesterday I had an appointment with a general doctor to discuss my hemoglobin and hematocrit levels (which has indicated low iron) but I found out that I needed to only have that discussion with my OB/GYN since they take care of all of my health needs whilst I'm pregnant. Unless of course they see something that requires sending me to a specialist. I prolly shoulda known that after all this time but I guess I forgot.
I've read all these things about what could cause low iron, other than pregnancy and a few months before I became pregnant my white blood cell count was low so that's the reason for my concern. But I pray that there's nothing more to it than that, especially in the realm of what the mind could imagine or dream up ya know.
School has been a little light the last couple of weeks. After going through writing, spelling, geography review and math review, we've been practicing the Christmas Play. It's a One Act Play that we're inviting the family to on Sunday. Everyone has a part!
Today we took a trip to Walmart at recess/lunch time. The Kitty and the Pupster were very excited to go because we don't make it there very often. Daddy does a lot of the grocery shopping. They were excited because they knew they'd have the chance to ride in the Bob the Builder cart and watch movies while the rest of us shopped.
I was proud of myself because I had a list and I stuck to it, and the bill was well under $80.
I haven't done that much shopping for your essentials yet. I thank God that I have had some friends offer me some little boy clothes and I have a few things from your big brother.
So here's (theoretically) how you're sizing up nowadays
Speak son:

What else is going on?
Your cousins are working on independent assignments right now, your big brother finally fell asleep for his late nap, biggest big sister is still figeting around trying to take a nap or at least be quiet, and littlest big sister has been fast asleep for almost two hours.
Daddy came home early from work today and he's working on some things in the office/ guest bed room (at least that's our plan to make it that way soon). Right now it's just an office.
Dinner tonight? I think we're having tilapia (for the kids) and potato crusted cod for me and Daddy. I picked up a good looking pre-seasoned set of cod from Walmart, which your cousin, K, says is delicious!
Your anxious (for you) siblings usually don't watch tv on a Tuesday but tonight we allowed them to watch Rudolph's Shiny New Year. It's been a little different during December since all these little classic shows are on.
Tonight the lights went out in our subdivision so we sat in the dark for a while, with only a candle. Hardly anyone was phased by it (except mommy) because I was thinking, it's gonna get really cold after a couple of hours. I thought about packing everyone up and going to Granny's house. But Dad encouraged me to stick it out. The estimated time for fixing it was midnight. He and your biggest big sister went and bought firewood and dessert and we made a cozy fire to watch.
Daddy and I ate our dinner by candle and cell phone light. Your siblings had eaten before the lights went out, but they still asked for more of our fish. The pecan crusted cod was really good. After Lamby finished her food and her helping of our food, she ran toward her room and said "night night, niiight niiight!" so I put her in her bed and said good night.
The lights (and the heat) came back on at about 10:45pm. I was very happy!
We then got ready for bed and hit the hay!
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
Wednesday, December 05, 2007
Thursday, November 29, 2007
20 Weeks - We had the gender determining sonogram today, and ........
So dad made it over from work, to witness the results (it worked out great that his job is only 5 minutes away). It's funny that we found out this time and not with baby 2. I guess we just couldn't take going through that suspense again.
We all sat there in the office and watched while the ultrasound technician rolled the little camera thingy around my tummy until she got to the area of revelation!
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RIGHT!!
Older Big Brother and Sister are totally excited and so are we. I admit I was a little nervous, thinking man I'm thinking too much about what it would be like to be "even", to have two sets, to have equal testosterone (if that's even possible) around the house so he's not outnumbered by a bunch of doll houses and pretty clothes!!!! Of course I'd be happy either way but this makes things really fun.
Oh and Jeoff just reminded me that this is what happens when you have one who came from a family of four girls and another who came from a family of four boys.
You gotta get two boys and two girls. Did we learn that in Biology or some other science class?
Anyway....Thank you for having fun with us and participating in the poll!!
As far as names go, Big Sister 1 has been suggesting the name, Samuel, since 2005 but that didn't happen since the baby ended up being a girl.
So Samuel is still in the running. We don't have any other choices yet.
Suggestions? Let me know. It definitely has to have significant meaning.
Oh yeah, here's a development update.
Speak son....
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
Very interesting...
Following are several excerpts
(Ted Seago) came up with a model called the "family integrated church," where Christians worship, learn and pray as families. Church is a place where believers come together for corporate worship, but the teaching of theology and doctrine to children is centered in the home.
"When you're talking about a family integrated church, you're just looking at a church that has brought everything back under the guidance of the family," Seago said.
In their church, Fathers ..serve communion to their families and pray over them. When a child becomes old enough to accept Christ, Seago's invitation is not for them to walk the aisle but to discuss it at home with their parents. Dads baptize their children.
Grace Community teaches that fathers are to be the spiritual leaders of their home. In the family integrated church, no adult except the parent is a significant influence
on a youth's spiritual life.
"Men are called to lead their families," Seago said. "They are the priest of the home."
Women are instructed in "biblical" roles for wives, including remaining in the home during their child-rearing years. A lot of the women members have college degrees but choose to "put work aside in this season of their life" so they can be home with
their children.
Families stay together for Bible studies, worship and fellowship, though optional childcare is provided for younger children and babies. It is not acceptable for a child to sit outside the family. If a child visits without a mom or dad, he or she sits with another family. "We do everything together as a family," Seago said. "We don't
separate."
Church members eat together every Sunday in a "fellowship meal."
Started by five home schooling families 14 months ago, today there are about 50 families in Grace Community Church. Members include Voddie Baucham, an author
and conference leader who in 2005 co-sponsored a Southern Baptist Convention
resolution contending that parents, and not the government, are responsible for
educating their children.
"Leading our own children to Christ, that's our greatest mission field," Seago said. "If you have children at home, that's your mission field. That's your small-group ministry."
While the model appeals most naturally to families with children, several older women, mostly widows, have joined, as have some younger single men. Several older couples have visited and decided the church wasn't for them.While all the current families homeschool, Seago is hoping to reach some more
"non-home schooling families that we can minister to."
by Bob Allen, managing editor of EthicsDaily.com
Monday, November 26, 2007
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Other topics and categories on this blog:
Imari's Article in the Newspaper
Chaos, Qualor, Filth (Clean that house!)
Thursday, November 22, 2007
Thankful
What am I thankful for?In addition to the list below, I am extremely thankful to God for the opportunity that I now have to be home with my children. It is not something that I can say I've hoped for during all my time of motherhood. It is a desire that I grew to have, as Jeoff and I grew in our marriage and as parents. When we began to have the desire to have me home, we didn't know how in the world it would be possible! The biggest reason for this was debt, and spending money that should have gone toward debt repayment, paying cash for things instead of borrowing fort it, etc. etc. etc.
The job he has now pays almost 3 times what he made a year and a half ago!
God is good and He is faithful!!! And I am thankful!
My thankful list:
- Life! Abundantly.... (To live is Christ and to die is gain)
- The opportunity to be home and provide the primary instruction and influence to our children throughout the day
- A wonderful husband
- 3 beautiful children
- A great family (mothers, father, sisters, cousins, etc.)
- 1 cutie pie baby on the way
- Great friends
- The influence of great churches and great spiritual leaders
Imari's Article in the newspaper - Away from the game: Cedar Hill's Imari Thompson

By RANDY JENNINGS / The Dallas Morning News
rjennings@dallasnews.com
Athletes who distinguish themselves away from competition:
Imari Thompson, Cedar Hill, SENIOR
Notable: Thompson is a third-year member of the school's a cappella choir, which consistently draws top scores in UIL competition. He is a tenor II, one of six in the choir. He ranks 80th in his class of 470.
Sport: Running back on the football team
Favorite singers: J Holiday, Chris Brown, Jennifer Hudson.
Favorite music: R&B

Teammates reaction to his singing: "They sing along with me."
As a tenor II: "I'm a low-high. Tenor I is up there."
College plans: Weighing football offers from many universities and service academies, including UNLV, Air Force, Naval Academy, North Texas and Kansas.
Potential career: Sports medicine. "This will be it for choir when the school year ends."
Halfway There - 19 Weeks







